decision2change,
Sorry, I thought you were a guy.. addressed you as 'man !"

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Self help products should be about what you described... by doing them (listning/doing exercises etc).. they should bring about the change... Sounds like that meditation you talked about may be the thing I need right now.. Paraliminals and other such LS products..... I have used them in the past and even now.. but honestly, I can't say for sure.. IF they helped or how much they helped..
Can you please give me details about that meditation ?
Thanks
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