Some paraliminal suggestions--others will no doubt add more:
1. Anxiety Free--because some of what you describe sort of sounds like a kind of delaying tactic your conscious mind is throwing out there to avoid taking risks (all relationships are "risky" to some degree!)
2. Instantaneous Personal Magnetism--in the part where it asks you to choose someone to emulate, think of someone you know who not only has the spark, but is very good at relating to others.
3. Self Esteem Supercharger--not because I necessarily think you have "low" self esteem, but because a little boost of that quality can be very attractive
4. Youthful Vitality--this one might help create that little boost of enthusiasm you're seeking
5. You Deserve It--I think this one should be almost required listening for almost any challenge. It really helps clear the boards of lots of past issues and regrets
I always think any relationship starts "at home" with the individual. I kind of think you're about ready to make some changes, so perhaps one or more of these will help. And I know others will have some great suggestions, too. Just use your intuition to choose the one(s) that will help you do what you want.
