Wait, so you taught her that she could prevent men from raping her though right thinking that leads to right actions... but if I believe that I can prevent men from raping me through right thoughts that lead me to right actions, I'm the one who's pathetic and sad.

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That sort of thing is a far cry from visualizing that everything is ok when it may not, in fact, be ok. In fact, many women talk themselves out of their instincts that tell them that this or that particular guy is dangerous and bad... and end up in terrible situations where they are at an extreme disadvantage. Their thinking about a situation doesn't match up with what it really turns out to be, no matter how much they might want to believe that a person is not a threat and that everything is ok.



This has nothing to do with the belief that you create your reality. Nowhere does it say, "Be a fool and stay with an abuser." Indeed, the teaching is that, either he will change or you will find it easy to move on as your thinking changes and his vibration moves out of synch with yours. Seriously, before you belittle someone's beliefs, maybe you should have clue one what you're talking about. The teaching doesn't once say "God wants you to be abused and beaten." It's not Christianity, which DOES teach that kind of stuff.

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If all she had was a fantasy, then we'd use that, and there would really be nothing wrong with it.



Soooo... it IS okay if people live with a perception that isn't based on your version of "reality," so long as it serves them well within that reality. Making up our minds would be a good thing. Now it's okay if someone has a fantasy if it's useful to you, but at the beginning of your post, it wasn't okay if someone lives with a "fantasy" that doesn't negatively impact their life (in their opinion, not yours- I dunno who made you an expert on other peoples' happiness and lives).

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Usually painful event occurs as a result of a misconception that makes us re-evaluate it. I think that someone can get a lot of mileage out of the fantasy that they are controlling reality. But I can think of some instances where that fantasy can hurt a person a lot.



I was 6 when I saw my mother butchered like an animal right in front of me. I was hiding watching it, unknown to the people who killed her. Perhaps you can help me understand how I "misconstrued" that, and where my "misconception" was.

I believe that I can create my reality, because otherwise, I have to accept your version of "reality," in which the torture and violent assaults I experienced as a child are simply at the whim of someone else, and are without sense, reason, or point. That there is no spiritual value in my suffering as a child, and at any moment, upon the whim of someone bigger and stronger than me, I could once again be tortured, or watch as someone chops up one of my loved ones. According to you, I live in a world where my experiences are pointless and I am in constant likelihood of being physically assaulted and otherwise viciously attacked, and there is nothing I can do about it except act like I'm not scared and hope for the best.

I can honestly tell you that I will never again accept your version of reality. If my experiences were meaningless and I live my life at the whim of those stronger than me, shoot me now. I'm not kidding. Kill me. I don't want to live in that world. Pure and simple.

But if my experiences happened so that I can help, relate to, and give compassion and understanding to others, then I have something worth living for. If I experienced what I did for a divine reason, and not simply out of the whim of some psychotic, then I can live a degree of faith and peace. If I have control over my life, then I can walk forward in confidence that the past happened for a reason, and there is no longer any reason for me to suffer going forward into my life.

I can live my life peacefully, and be calm and confident and have peace through my tears if I do lose another loved one. I can have a life that is happy, fruitful, and worthwhile to me.

One thing that I am genuinely grateful for. You can belittle me. You can mock me. You can tell me that I don't control my life. But you can't make me believe it.

Because I control my reality. *smooches*