Dosetsu,
Thank you for your prompt reply. It is very helpful. If I understand correctly, what I need to do is some serious visualizations where I change the way that I respond to this situation in the past and then carry that forward into the future. I can see the benefit of this. I hadn't thought of this and was only relying on the tapes. It is similar to what is found in the book "Natural Brilliance" by Paul Scheele then. I suppose then that I should PR it and apply the lessons learned from you and the book. Novel concept, eh?
Thanks and I'll let you know how it the battle goes.