My dear Uniquesoul,
(I am so enjoying getting to know each new facet you present to me!)
To clarify: my 'confession' is not about washing dirty linen in public. There is something powerful in writing down my processes. I intend for this to work. Hence I will do what it takes to get there. If my journey or my words support someone else, then there is an added value.
I appreciate exactly what you are saying about the 'consuming' of personal development concepts/products, and actually living them. During my psychology training, I found a lot of evidence that it takes at least 30 days (of daily practise) to create a habit (6 weeks is better), but one missed session basically kills off those new, budding neural pathways, and so all previous effort is wasted. You have to start afresh. I found references to exactly this research in ES also. Astronauts wore goggles that turned the world upside-down. The trick was to stay at it for a minimum of 30 days. Those who for some reason removed the goggles were transported back to the starting point. They had to restart the whole process. There seems to be a neurological basis to this. So understanding a concept or problem is just the starting point. We need to consistently practise new behaviour over a sustained period to harvest results.
Regarding having a fresh problem pop out every time you solve one.... sounds uninviting. I suggest you rewrite that program! I am sure you would prefer to be an expert problem-solver than a reliable problem-creator!!
A nice solution pops into my mind. Jack (see I really am doing the ES course with my heart and soul) says to do a daily review which may really provide great insights into your problem-generation program.
Here's how it works (Effortless Success Course one Page 52 & 53):
During a quiet meditation ask yourself:
a) How you were successful today (Note, Uniquesoul, the emphasis on success and problem solving!)? Use the phrase "I was successful today when I...."
b) Next note times when you were out of alignment with your purpose, intentions, or preferred way of being.
Use the phrase " I was out of alignment when I ............."
c) Record ways you could have been more effective in being who you are or creating what you want:
"I could have been more effective if I had....."
I did this exercise after a dreadful, stress-filled, out-of-control day. I was amazed at how this exercise changed my attitude to the day's events. I was startled at how much I had done and achieved. I noticed that I had just focused on the out-of-my-control stuff. And by finding one or two things that I could do better next time round, I had changed to a positive and solution-orientated mindset. Jack calls this changing your inner critic to an inner coach. It works. Sadly, I have yet to do it daily.
Thank you so much for your insights and support. They help me stay on track.
Ti abbraccio,
French Claire
