Hello Inchiki,
Thank you for your generous and uplifting comments. Encouragement and compliments are more effective than hammer blows, and they make me feel good too. So thanks again.
If you want to understand my motivation and passion for positive change, go to my thread about turkeys and eagles (on the Abundance for Life forum). My whole family feels we have been artificially held back, and now we are free. Free for me means to make up for lost time (I'm 49) and really go for it now. So I am genuinely taking my life in my own hands, taking responsibility for what is and what isn't. That post was difficult to write, not emotionally, but intellectually as none of us could actually understand why we failed to integrate in the place we had chosen so carefully to live. My husband cried when he read it. My daughter was wowed.
I am starting to understand that change involves altering how we perceive events, behaviours, outcomes, whatever. If we hold a vision/belief that doesn't serve us well (in my case, it caused me pain and confusion, feelings of rejection and hurt), and it continues to exert influence, then the way to move beyond it is to move out of that space and view it from a different perspective (thought this needs to be credible and own-able).
Perhaps one can view your breaking-the-booze-habit in the same way. You hold a belief that alcohol is overly-important / exerts power over you. Paul comes along with a new interpretation of the same phenomenon: "Inchiki, don't try to break the booze habit (as you can't), replace it with a new habit." Hey presto! And you are willing to do just that. Now, I don't want to interpret your experiences for you, I'm not competent to do that. This is merely an attempt to illustrate what I find to be true for myself.
If you have an idle moment, I would greatly value your feedback on the turkey/eagle dualism. It took great energy to formulate it as this held power over me. I gained clarity and a new perspective on a space of darkness, unfilled needs and pain. My gut feeling is I put a lot of energy into the post, so a little energy back (via feedback) would help to close this cycle.
Regarding weightloss (just a tiny bit left to go), my True Self informs me (I hear it loud and clear now by reading your and Unique Soul's comments) that all I need to do is follow the ES (Effortless Success) Rule of Five (=take five actions a day) to attain my ideal body. The correct actions for me at this point in time are: 1) more walking; 2) play more tennis - my husband and I both love that; 3) praise myself; 4) talk to myself face to face in the mirror about how much I love / appreciate myself; 5) indulge more in fresh salads and skip all desserts.
Now I have a house in Ireland to sell which would make us wealthy and financially independent. So I feel attracted to the Power Thinking PL as I fully intend to sell it myself. Even if I have to attend property fairs in Europe and the US. Any lovers of heritage architecture in Japan?
Take care, take action.
Adieu,
French Claire