Hi 4ndy, one thing you might want to try is go to xtrememind.com/freeware.htm and download a file called Deep Mind Ulta II. Its a free file thats about 10 minutes long, and they claim that if you listen everyday for 10 days (and loop if while you sleep if you can) you will "Quickly notice now relaxed, confident and irresistibly charming you'll be!" They also have a couple other free downloads that look interesting.
What the heck, its free, whatta ya got to lose?
Good luck
George