Alex:
You have great insight! Until now, I never thought that I wanted to "control" the relationship. My first reaction was "of course, I control the relationship" Arrgh!!

Never in a million years had I thought I'll be controlling. I called it been "proactive". So now, I am confused about where to turn to. Being proactive is good (desirable); controlling doesn't give me the results I want. What resource do I need to call forward on this situation? This relationship stuff has multiple levels!
