I do one specific thing if my mind keeps thinking of a negative experience, or of negative feelings arise just like that.. then I'll STOP what I'm doing and do the following:
1. Let an image come to mind of that negative feeling you have, of if you have one already do nr. 2.
2. Step out of the image, and go further away.. just a little bit.. now ask yourself. How can you solve the problem that is connected to that image? If you dont have an answer, or if you do just do the following:
3. Turn all colours out of that image.. tune it into a black and white photo.. It will then get stored as an old image in your mind.. believe it or not.. that will also reduce the intensity of thinking of it..
4. Make the image smaller, and move it futher away... further further.. gone...
5. Now if your mind keeps still focusing on the negative image, do the whole proces again.. turn all the colours out of that image, and make it smaller and move it futher further gone .. away..
Normally a person only needs to do that 2-3 times with an image, and then the mind automatically stops focusing on the negative feeling.. the key here is to find an image connected to that negative feeling, and then make it smaller and move it futher away...
I almost never goes around with negative feelings from past events because of that method.. I'm really seldom irritated, only when others irritated moods reacts on me.. Feeling very stable always...
Murof.