Hi Alex,
The reason I'm having difficulty is because I'm not able to find an exact polar opposite of the habit I would like to change, to make as a goal.
After a lot of in-depth thinking, I have come to conclusion that this (bad) habit is at the root of many of my issues. It causes anger(irritability/intolerance), guilt, lack of energy, asocial behaviors, sadness, procastination, lack of success in my profession etc. etc.
The approach I took is: What would I do if I didn't have this habit. Things can be: Social activities, More physical exercise, learn new hobbies etc. etc. Those things can be the goal and I can also try to find individuals who have demonstrated those behaviors as ideals.
The problem comes when I try to think of opposite of those goals. None of them are direct opposites of the habit I would like to eliminate. So, there is a possibility that I may acquire all (or part of) these qualities and my original issue may still remain.
Have I Confused you ?
It may help if you find the post titled "Have a bad addiction that I'm trying to squash.". If I guessed correctly, I am struggling to correct a similar issue.
AB
