Loverofcats,
I know of many people that managed to get what they were looking for in their lives in many stages of their lives. The only requirement was they had to see that it was possible for them to achieve their dream.
I also know of many who found a family for the first time in their lives at an age greater than yours they became an important part of a family.
The people I meet did volunteer work one or 2 days a week and the most popular project was a grand friends one. Both kids and older volunteers gained a lot out of it and from time to time the bond went beyond the project. A lot of kids don't have grand parents nearby, a lot of parents don't have parents to turn to in an emergency. Yet they still find each other.
Just because you are related to someone by blood doesn't mean that you have a family relationship with them that is fulfilling. The one that you seek is created thought love, giving sharing, being there to help someone out in their hour of need and most importantly accepting it in return.
I think that this is one thing that is often overlooked in what creates a strong family unit, the give and the take. If it's always one sided it breaks down. This is why the Grandparents project was is so successful. That is not to say that you have to give first, sometimes you have to accept a gift of kindness first before you can return the favour.
I'm not saying that you have to join a volunteer group. I gave it as an example to help you see that which you think is impossible is in fact possible and if it is possible one way it's possible though many other ways to. Things like that do manifest in the lives of people for any age. Why not for you?
While a blood relationship looks impossible for you don't give up on the probablity that you will are an important part of a family and it just hasn't manifested yet. It can manifest as soon as you can allow yourself to let it manifest.
Alex
