Hey all.
I am a new user of the paraliminals. I like them very much as listening to them seem to be able to instantaneously put me in a good mood. I find myself getting to them as soon as I have a chance. My girlfriend was originally quite happy about the effects they have on me. But lately, she started to point out that I may be listening to them too much. I also have the feeling that I maybe relying on my listening to them to live.
Has anyone also felt that they have been "addicted" to the paraliminals? I am not sure what I am trying to ask in this post. I suppose there are worse things in the world to be addicted to. Yet, addiction is addiction. I rather be able to function on my own and not have to rely on anything.
Just to share my thoughts and experience. Any reply would be welcomed.
Good day
It is a good addiction it's you wanting to have a rapid change sometimes another person might try to get you to stop because they do not want you to change
I was also using the paraliminals a lot. About two or three per day.
Anyway, the paraliminals are only instruments. If they get in the way of living I'd say that perhaps you're using it too much.
Then again, perhaps your girlfriend is too dependent on you?
What do you mean by " I also have the feeling that I maybe relying on my listening to them to live. "
I'm passing trough a similar case.
I started about three weeks ago listening to all the paraliminals on every aspect of my life. I have seen many changes on my perspective and way of living on these weeks and because of that I'm listening to them more and more. (3 sometimes 4 a day).
So my comment here is, if you know something is good for you and can help you and you have seen results, why not do it more?
Paraliminals is just a tool to enhance changes in your life on a deep level, so you are saving so much time on the long run by using paraliminals, is like using an affirmation several times, I think that more like an addiction is a new habit with good consequences attached to it. A habit that is helping you to change on less time that you can alone.
So, if it is good for you, why not do it several times?
I hope this helps you by giving a new perspective
Juan
At least you would be spending your time planted good stuuf in your head instead watching tv or something. if you were not using the paraliminals want would you be replacing with that time? think about it
An addiciton is NEVER a good thing! Not even a "good" one! If you check through this forum and also Personal Learning Strategies literature through the years, you'll find that they are very adamant about listeners having a HEALTHY balance in the use of their products! In fact, quite a few times Peter and Alex have posted about this saying that they want you have a HEALTHY BALANCE in the use of their products. The way they put is that their products are to help you live your life more abundantly and NOT for you to live your life in order to use their products! See the difference? One is in balance and one is not.
Hi,
I'm also new to Paraliminals, but I've been using Holosync for two months. I would guess your situation with your girlfriend could happen with other couples when one partner is involved with a program or activity and the other isn't.
The advice to follow the instructions from Learning Strategies is good. I do that with Holosync. You might consider that when we first start something some of us get so enthusiastic that we neglect other activities. After I bought my first computer I spent a few hours a day on it. That tapered off after a while. So I wouldn't worry too much about this.
A couple of suggestions: if possible, listen to some of the Paraliminals when you are alone so that she isn't aware of the time you spend listening. I listened to my Holosync Awakening Prologue for an hour from 6 to 7 a.m., followed by Sonic Access for Success today while she slept. I may listen to a different Holosync CD tonight before bed. Maybe you could have her listen to them with you. I haven't been too successful with that one yet. She's only listened once and was very impatient, but she did like the music track after the Sonic Access for Success.
Unfortunately, my girlfriend is very cynical. She doesn't believe that any of these products work, and I don't try to convince her. When I change that will be the proof. A quick example: She just told me about a vibration machine that was recommended to her by a friend. Well, I've had one for a year now, but she wouldn't try it.
Often in a relationship as one person starts to grow. The other half will try to pull the person back. And the isssue of growth can be anything from getting a new job, losing weight, stopping smoking, even learning a new skill such as speed reading.
Could it be that you are is somewhat of the same situation? And that your partner is not willing to let you grow.
Perhaps a good counsellor could help you with this. In issues of time managment, relationship skills such as confict resolution, negotiation.
You do have the right to grow in self love, self choice, health, freedom and truth.
Having been there a long time ago. Myself I would seek a few sessions with a counsellor.
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Hi,
I'm also new to Paraliminals, but I've been using Holosync for two months. I would guess your situation with your girlfriend could happen with other couples when one partner is involved with a program or activity and the other isn't.
The advice to follow the instructions from Learning Strategies is good. I do that with Holosync. You might consider that when we first start something some of us get so enthusiastic that we neglect other activities. After I bought my first computer I spent a few hours a day on it. That tapered off after a while. So I wouldn't worry too much about this.
A couple of suggestions: if possible, listen to some of the Paraliminals when you are alone so that she isn't aware of the time you spend listening. I listened to my Holosync Awakening Prologue for an hour from 6 to 7 a.m., followed by Sonic Access for Success today while she slept. I may listen to a different Holosync CD tonight before bed. Maybe you could have her listen to them with you. I haven't been too successful with that one yet. She's only listened once and was very impatient, but she did like the music track after the Sonic Access for Success.
Unfortunately, my girlfriend is very cynical.
(Does it really matter whether or not your girlfriend is cynical??? Live your life by your OWN choices and decisions! Believe me, you'll be much happier in life if you do!-- Mike)
She doesn't believe that any of these products work, and I don't try to convince her. When I change that will be the proof. A quick example: She just told me about a vibration machine that was recommended to her by a friend. Well, I've had one for a year now, but she wouldn't try it.
Hi, Lovefungus,
Just a p.s. to my earlier reply: How much time per day are you listening to the CDs? We are reacting to the term addiction without knowing how much time you spend on this . And what is the life you're neglecting?. Is your work suffering? Are you a student who isn't studying? Have you abandoned or curtailed important relationships?
I'm listening a minimum of one hour a day (Holosync) and one half hour of Sonic Access (I received the program only a week ago). Early this morning I did the one track of Sonic Access, and my Awakening Prologue for one and one half hours earlier this evening. My listening time comes from reduced reading (I had been reading two or three novels a month --now I read one or less-- and from reduced television watching).
While riding the subway and commuter railroad on Sunday I noticed people with mp3 players. Some of those folks may be listening a few hours a day, whether it's while standing in line at Starbucks, while walking, while eating. I wouldn't think they would describe themselves as addicted.
Thanks for all your replies. I appreciate it.
Since I posted my initial note, I have listened to less paraliminals a day. About 3 or so (it was closer to 5 previously). I guess my worry of addiction comes not only from the frequency of listening, but of my seeming beginning dependency of them to deal with certain life situations. I find myself wanting to listen to them, say, before I have to go see my parents (whom I have an awkward relationship), or meet someone if I worry about the outcome of the meeting. I guess I am worried about possible addiction because I see similar patterns of usage as when I was addicted to marijuana. I used to rely on pot to handle certain situations. For certain kinds of situations, it wouldn't feel right if I didn't first smoke pot. And I see myself doing something similar with the paraliminals. Presumably, the effects of the paraliminals should be more like a "cure" more than a "fix". But the way I am using them, I am afraid that it may even be negatively contributing to the potential long term effect of them on me.
That's what I mean by relying on them. I don't want to be in a situation when, say, if I misplaced my ipod before an important meeting, I feel even more nervous than usual, because "oh no, I didn't have my paraliminal boost", I will now definitely fail". Etc. Etc.
That was qute verbose, and not particularly articulate. Hope in so many words, you understand what I mean. Thanks.
Some people get the same reaction from partners when they start meditating daily.
I do suggest this, more than three Paraliminals a day is overkill. It's telling yourself you don't trust yourself to do it on your own. Becomes a bit like a baby's security blanket. If you're on holidays you can manage 5, occasionally.
I think if you lie back and listen to more than 3 Paraliminals a day on an ongoing basis you need to ask yourself what you are really avoiding? You're not actually putting yourself into situations where what you developed with the Paraliminal to that extent every day. Is listening to 3 Paraliminals better than playing WoW or similar? I don't know for one person it WoW can be an addiction that is unhealthy and causes them to withdraw from the world and their environment. For another it opens them up to the world around them.
How much are you using the Paraliminals and are you afraid to use them a little less. Is time listening to Paraliminal more important than time with your girlfriend. I think those are the things you need to consider.
I love Paraliminals but don't listen everyday. I can go without listening for months and then decide I need a hand. That's when I use a Paraliminal again for two or three days. Sometimes a week but then I stop.
Alex
Hi, lovefungus,
Your reply was plenty articulate. Your paraliminals problem is much clearer since you gave some specifics. Having been young in the '60s and '70s, I recall a teacher friend who smoked pot before leaving for school in the mornings. He claimed he needed it to face his classes.
Having just spent a day with close relatives during which I was aware of the dysfunctional relationships in my family (although they wouldn't acknowledge it), that would be something to tackle with my Sonic Access Relationship CD. I've only had the program one week, and just using the Success CD for a problem I have with clutter and disorganization.
Good luck. When you have paraliminals success with these problems, I'd like to hear about it.