Someone close to me used paraliminals and mediation to reach their “ideal” weight, which is a very subjective goal by definition. People with weight issues never seem to reach their “ideal” weight, and this person imagined and mediated on being in a concentration camp, starved of food as a means to reach that goal. It worked so well, and her subconscious picked up the queues, and the net result was that she was hungry ALL the time. In essence, she defeated her own goal with the imagery and the MEANING that she gave to the process.
The CD is the tool, but we make this stuff happen all by ourselves. Help her by getting her professional help. Guilt is never a good sign.
Just my 0.02 worth.
[This message has been edited by educk (edited December 14, 2005).]
In other words the Paraliminal wants you to take it slow. I don't think it is the Paraliminal alone doing that. Your intention and expectations when you put the CD on plays an important role. Some people can listen to a CD with nothing but relaxing music everyday for a month and believe that the music will program them to change. Just the act of doing that everyday for a month is a powerful program alone.
You don't need to use a Paraliminal for a month however some people will approach it the same way, determined to believe that is required to work. And their experience is a result of their most powerful expectation.
I suggest your friend use the Positive Relationship CD. I'm sure if a child or someone she loved ate some "junk food" one day she would forgive them. Knowing that it's not wise to do it everyday but an occasional taste can and should be enjoyed. She needs to give herself the same respect.
If you're going to do something enjoy it. If you don't want to enjoy it why do it?
Alex
[This message has been edited by Alex K. Viefhaus (edited December 14, 2005).]
I'd advise listening to side B, perhaps on a daily basis for a week. Everyone has slip-ups from time to time. We know what foods create health and energy and which ones don't, but we also know which foods we enjoy.
The trick is to enjoy the foods that create health and energy.
It really sucks to be fat. My advice is that if the Ideal Weight CD isn't working to heal the emotions, to pick up Belief. This is perhaps the most powerful Paraliminal out there.
I recommend it because there is a common belief that fat people are like that because obesity is God's Punishment for sloth and gluttony. The counter belief is that while we may know on an instinctive level what foods create life for us, we were raised by perhaps well meaning parents to have bad eating choices and habits from a VERY young age. We became addicted to sugar before we could understand concepts like addiction, let alone metabolism or obesity. There is a lifetime of programming to undo.
What helps me is remembering the affirmation that is part of almost every Paraliminal program. "In charge of your life, in charge of the mental patterns that order your life." I consume food, food doesn't consume me.
[This message has been edited by Kaiden (edited January 05, 2006).]