I am new to this, please be patient with me. I am at this time living by myself. I am a widow. I have raised my three children successfully. Now, I know that it is me time. I want to be free to live my own life. There are many people who love and care about me. I love the journey that I am on. I am not working a 9-5, vacation once a year, etc.,job. I am a freelancer. I love helping people. When someone needs my help I am there to help. The people who love me think I am crazy and are worried about how am I going to survive. I have been trusting my Creator, Source of my Being all my life, this is something they have a hard time understanding. Until I am having financial success, working a job (9-5) in my life, they are all saying "we'er worried and concerned about your well being. I am learning each and everyday what I want, and I at this point all I want is to be left alone to find my way to do the things I want to do. How do I tell them to leave me alone, I am ok!! ? I am reading and learning about the Law of Attraction, which I realize I have been using all my life. I am excided about LEARNING STRATEGIES. Thank you for any support.
You need to let people be on their own path. They worry about you because they love, but they lack the tools you have to make progress. Another concern from these people in a more selfish way may be that they feel that you may seek their financial help, even if you have probably never done so.
Personal development is not an easy way of changing our lives. It is hard work and testominies on here demonstrate it.
If you feel you are on the right path, keep moving ahead. You are in charge of your own life so accept others, but let them go at the same time.
Welcome RobynWanda!
There are more people than you know who are living the kind of 'freelance' life you describe. And many of us experience the same kind of attitudes you describe from those around us. Never mind. They were trained in the 'security' of the employee status - which most find less secure right now! They don't know how they would survive without a 9-5 job, so they can't understand how you can. Your experience with faith-based living has given you an abundance of happiness and a serenity that they have not found. [Maybe they are jealous and want you to be on the same level they are - many unconsciously do!] If they express anxiety, you might just tell them that you are doing well enough to pay for your needs, which is about as well as they are (maybe) so they needn't worry about you.
I would encourage you to continue to trust in the guidance of your Creator and go forward in peace and abundance.
May you create peace and joy in your heart.
Margaret Ida
Hi RobynWanda,
i am going through the same situation (i mean financial) and i am facing the financial problem but also focusing myself to create the life on the basis of meaning and abundant. when i do this than i feel the adventure and joy but when i think about the future than fear come to my mind and i am thinking that how can i survive in this life. i have family to support and i wanted to live this kind of joyful life because i taste it in a bit and i donot wanted to go on that dull life again but financial problem forcing me to accept the dull job.
i just wanted to ask a question from you that how can you in this age you develop the belief in God. i am assuming that you help others without thinking about daily bread and inside of you, you are so sure that you cannot be failure because you believe in God. can you share something about this trust in God. how can one develop the kind of belief you have in your life.
I need it badly.
nice guy
Stevers has started a thread about faith you might like to follow. In it he quotes from the Effortless Success course -
"To trust in the force that moves the Universe is FAITH. Faith isn't blind; Faith is Visionary. Faith is believing that the Universe is on our side and the Universe knows what it's doing."
It is indeed a great leap to go from believing their is no guiding force to trusting in God. I would suggest that a first step is simply to open your heart and mind to the possibility that there might actually be a proactive energy into which you could tap. With your question here, I think you have already taken that step. The next one is to start noticing what evidence there is that your life is being (or has been) affected positively by outside events. (Many use the word 'blessed' for this concept.)
You know, you actually report trusting in the 'security' of your 9-5 job providing for your future - yet told us not long ago that the one you had was ending. By nature the employee's position is temporary and can be terminated at any time. It is only a vehicle to provide for your family's immediate needs. If you already have another job to use for that purpose, you have been affected positively by an outside event. (There are many people looking for jobs who don't find them these days.) Surely you have been 'blessed' to have the means with which to purchase the Effortless Success course. Use it, doing the things it teaches, and notice the positive things that just 'show up' in your life. Don't feel that you must interpret this in any way - just notice what is happening.
If you remember, the Law of Attraction tells you that the amount of emotional energy you attach to an outcome is what attracts it to you. Accordingly, noticing the things you enjoy in abundance attracts more experiences with enjoying and abundance. But the other side of the coin is that noticing fearfully the things you lack attracts more experiences of fearing and lack. So the trick is to notice when you find yourself worrying about the future, tell yourself to stop that, and direct your thoughts to the things that you have enjoyed in the past, are enjoying in the present, and/or could be enjoying in the future. As long as you are actively putting energy into your life (not just hanging around waiting for it to happen) the energy you attract will show up in your life.
May you create some abundance in your life today.
Margaret Ida
thanks Margaret Ida for the wisdom. i am actually spending lot of time on worry about the bad things going to happen in future. i am not focusing on the positive side of the life. because i am fearing inside that what if i fail. and this question paralyze me and i am unable to focus on blessing. but i know that i have to take this decision and i have to face this fear. but taking the decision that i am going to overcome this fear is not easy for me.
because i could not overcome this fear for forever so i make a plan for it. so i take the decision that i choose the trust for the next 25 days upto 31.08.2009 i allow myself to focus on positive side. and i allow myself to see this sentence that i am going to live a meaningful and abundant life. whatever thoughts come to my mind aginst this decision i am going to release it and put my mind focus on what i want. if i fail than it could not hurt me because it is only for 25 days and than i can come back to my reasonable life and i can go to the old ways. and if i am successful than i can completely changed my mindset for forever.
it means that i am genuinely look for the good in my life and circumstances and also look for the gifts in my problem. i do not know what is going to happen in future and i see myself that i am going towards my life of full of meaning and abundance. and i am going blindly follow this for the next 25 days.
what is your suggestion. is this decision is good. i am a proactive person. i mean i do not blame anybody for my position in my life. i know that i am responsible for my decision, my behaviour, my attitude and my focus and my thoughts. and in the past i am continuously use this attitude of practive in my daily life. so i can take this decision easily but do you think that my intention or law of attraction could do something wrong because i am taking the decision only for 25 days not for whole life.
thanks,
nice guy
Hi RobynWanda!
I thought out two and even three responses...
So I think to weigh my words carefully.
You do well to 'pinch yourself'. Going it 'freelance' when you say, 'I am new to this' is 'crazy'. Use your powers to get hold of a mentor who has made 'freelance' work for them and follow their counsel religiously.
Kind Regards,
Thank you for your responce. I agree with what you said, thats why I am checking out this group of people. I am so feeling a connection. I am looking for a mentor who has done what I am working on doing. I no that I am on the right track and will continue to trust in the Higher Power who I choose to call My GOD, Source of my Being, Creator of my Soul. My journey has been interesting, the books I am reading, the interesting people I am meeting. I am free to explore the things that GOD has put in my path. I can truely say I have never been this excited about my life, except when I got married and had my three children. So now I am on a new journey and am being ask "ok what do you want to do now, what ever it is lets do it together". I am very much walking by faith as I wake up each day knowing that yesterday is gone and today is new. I love living in The Now. My needs are all taken care of for today. Food, Shelter,and lots of Love. So for me its not crazy, its Living, Laughing, Loving and Enjoy what I am given each and everyday. No complaining anymore, just having Faith and a Positive Attitude.
Hi again,
RobynWanda,
Much love, I would keep notes on what your heart says day upon day and someday that will be a 'road map' for others who find themselves on a similar path.
I've done that for decades and I also noted how it builds personal conviction and strength as you review and follow through footfall by footfall...
A good mentor can help to keep the road on point, clear and presently useful. 'Freelancing' can require a step above in disciple and professional focus.
Hi to you,
Yukala,
Talk about road map for others.. I am talking to people almost everyday, loving to encourage and support them. The thank you's I get feel so good. You are so right in suggesting that I keep notes.
I am so feeling so free at this time. You said "Freelancing can require a step above disciple and professional focus", what do you mean? I am aware that a good mentor is what I need now, it is something that I am seeking. Thank you and much love back to you.
Hi,
What I mean is that you are disciplined in almost a hidden way; outgoing, charming, useful. You pour your soul out with a smile.
But, behind the scenes you need be actually more disciplined than usual so to make money, keeping good client records, learning all the time, staying one step ahead of trends or technical requirements. (depending on the venue).
You are in sales, marketing, personal coaching and still have expertise in some line of endeavor. You work for your self and the other person; which is huge.
Usually best to befriend others 'working for themselves' as the common ground can be a lifesaver.
Living the life as a practical inspiration all around who just seems to be 'there', when needed.
Keep up on your 'homework'. An often used plan is to romance and keep 'fewer' bigger clients.
Thank you, Yukala,
I hear you loud and clear. I am still learning. Planning on keeping up my homework.
On becoming more positive:
I was most intrigued to read your recent post, Niceguy. I know exactly what you are referring to (negative thoughts) as I had a similar experience when I went beyond the initial high of ES-ing.
I am wondering whether the command to think positively all the time isn't a step too big for some of us (me especially as I am basing my theory on my own experience).
The first time I had a glimpse of this 'step too big' idea was when I read Gay Hendrick's "The Big Leap". He writes about living in one's genius zone: finally shaking off the shackles of one's zone of excellence to operate within one's own personal genius. Note, the author assumes we are alrealy in our zone of excellence.
Now I was really stimulated at living in my zone of genius - I mean, who wouldn't like that? However, I am currently NOT living in my zone of competence, let alone zones of excellence or genius. I began to question whether this book was written for people in a different situation to me. If I were seriously to contemplate moving into my zone of genius, the changes would have to be so radical, so massive, that they would send shockwaves thorough my entire universe - a step too big as I would unsettle everyone.
Joe Vitale, in his "Expect Miracles", seems to realise that some people have genuine difficulties that hamper them from simply throwing the switch from negative to positive. He even admits "a negative environment can be extremely difficult to overcome" (p. 64).
I am starting to question whether (for me anyway) it isn't a sign of progress in the right direction when certain negative thoughts, feelings and events jump into centre stage even as I strive to live positively. Could it be that these need to be worked through BEFORE I can embrace a 100% positive lifestyle? I mean, I can't just abdicate from all things that don't suit me because I live in a network of people, responsiblilities, contracts and obligations.
I wonder whether I inadvertently set myself up as a failure because I sometimes had negative thoughts? I certainly felt that I must be doing something wrong, perhaps now working hard enough at the ES process, because I still had to deal with negative feelings and reactions.
Vitale has a technique for dealing with negative stuff. He suggests we look at the negative situation/experience/feeling and try to find a useful lesson embedded within it. Then we have something to be grateful for, positive about. This really works for me. I can pick through some painful experience and select some useful lessons. Within a minute or two, I feel completely different and can actually see a benefit in having had a bad experience. I change from being a victim to being a beneficiary.
Whether my hunch is correct or not, I can honestly state that I am working through my negative stuff and leaving it behind. I used to be so upset at having my mother live with us - that is gone. I resented having to sell my heritage home in Ireland - now I truly desire to sell it. I was angry, confused and hurt at my work experiences in Ireland - now different interpretations are emerging. I know that I have ES to thank for this emerging mindset. I am excited to see when I have finally cleared my last negative hurdle (leaving my current job), how much more time I can spend in a positive mindset.
Have a really positive day.
Adieu,
French Claire
Especially for niceguy - and anybody else working on change (I think that's all of us!) - and me (this is partly my own personal therapy!)
You may have seen other posts in which I advocate using baby steps. I have found it too easy to beat up on myself and get negative when I attempt to make a big change (or set of changes) in one giant step. A mentor reminded me recently of the old riddle - Q. How do you eat an elephant? A. One bite at a time!
If I commit to making a change, and especially if it looks like a big change, I find it useful to choose a first step/goal that I feel sure I can accomplish. Then as I take that step I have an experience with success and can move on to another step with more confidence ('faith,' if you will).
A goal to ALWAYS think positively is a BIG goal - unattainable without a careful definition of 'thinking.' Negative things and thoughts will always be a part of your life. Otherwise, how could you identify what is positive? Opposition is a necessary part of this life! However, if you define 'thinking positively' as the action you take in the face of challenging circumstances, then I think it is quite possible to successfully create a positive approach to life.
I have found that noticing feelings is a wonderful early step. Ask 'How am I feeling?' I may be feeling tense, or discouraged, or over-whelmed - or I may be happy, peaceful, enthused. Becoming aware of your feelings is a step towards doing something about them. Congratulate yourself each time you find yourself noticing how you are feeling! I find journaling helps me remember that I am doing it.
Noticing thoughts is another early step. Ask "What am I thinking?" Feelings are the results of focusing on some thought.
Becoming aware of the thoughts that are in your mind and heart is another step towards doing something about them. Again, congratulate yourself each time you notice what thoughts are producing your feelings - and that means positive thoughts and feelings as well as negative ones! Again, journaling is a good reinforcement for me.
Once I notice a feeling and find the thought that is triggering it, then I can choose what to do with it. Since I want to enhance a positive feeling, I can nurture it by pursuing that line of thinking and enjoying the experience. And since I want to eliminate a negative feeling, I can get rid of it by ignoring the negative line of thinking and taking it in another direction.
Nobody knows better than you do what you can trust yourself to do. Niceguy, you ask, "do you think that my intention or law of attraction could do something wrong because i am taking the decision only for 25 days not for whole life?" It is a good goal to work on trusting for 25 days since you feel you can commit to that amount of time. But you must think of trust as the reasonable way to live. Keep a written record of your positive experiences with trusting. Do not write down anything about mistrust or fear. Focus on the feelings and ideas that come when you trust. When you review your record at the end of the month, you will see what positive things trust has brought into your life - and make your decision about continuing with it.
Wishing you may create peace and happiness,
Margaret Ida
thanks French Claire for your response and i am sorry to give you late response. it is because i could not understand your answer deeply and secondly because i am develop the resistance to answer to you. why i do not know but i know that i must give this answer. so i first release the resistance to you and than jump to see your answer. and i find that you not only understand the question deeply but also give the answer in a deep way. now i can understand your answer clearly which i cannot understand in past. and i am appreciate it. because it contain the answer to me. i am really hesitating to decide go for complete different person or act as if that i am ideal person i wanted to be or first clear the clutter than shift my conscious. i make the decision and i find that it is too hard for me. after the initial motivational stage i come to know that i am not making progress but actually i am getting worse. i am literally fighting with myself to be in the positive state and what you called the genius state. whole day and at night upto 3 am i am still fighting with me because i am releasing the negative emotion or talking to myself on the spot but now the storm has been less charged. i also find that when i just live in the present moment than i am feeling very good inside and feeling very content. but when i switch to thinking about the future than i start having worry and other negative things. because i am already decided to be positive so i prefer to live in the present moment and when i found that i am not able to do the simple task because i am already engaged in making myself positive work. because i know that this is the initial stages where the resistance is so high that i am not able to complete my daily simple chores. but this decision make me feel mad that i am not even completing simple chores but now i am feeling good because now i notice that i am feeling adventure in it. i am saying to myself wow! what a experiment i am doing. i am making a life based on meaning and abundance while i am not have even a money to pay me regular bills. there is fear and also adventure in my stomach. i am feeling the sensation of both at the same time in me. and thanks for the advice you have given me i am going to apply it in my daily life and than i will respond to you.
thanks for giving the insight that i have to live in the genius zone. i never read the book so i assume it means that i do my best in the present moment. and if the best is not enough than i do not beat myself. beause i did my best. and i am start doing the best in the present moment and that is i am going to do right now. i will tell you about it. but one thing is sure that this is great difficult for me and but also very motivating and effortless for me because i am not going to beat myself if i found that what i done is nothing. but i know inside that i am doing my best in daily life. i think you understand that what i am saying.
thanks Margaret Ida for your insight. you have provide a very good idea which is easy to implement and can be achieve. but i think my situation is different. i wanted to have a career and life which is based on meaning and abundance and i am going to lost my job soon. and doing small baby steps does not provide me the results i want and i think a big step is required by me at this present situation. if i does not take the big steps and massive steps than i am going to fail. and this fear plus achieving the goal give me strenth to handle the big steps and bear the pain it bring to me. if i am wrong than please let me
know. because right now i wanted to be right in life instead wanted to be right in this forum. so if i am wrong than frankly
write down i am even ready to hear the harsh words if they guide me to better life. so i think massive and consistent big steps is require by me in this present situation. and about your feeling part and thinking part. i tell you that i am keep a little diary with me and in every hour i am asking these questions from myself.
1. what i done in this hour (what activity i do)
2. what i am thinking about and what i am thinking. (write a line or two only)
3. what i am feeling today and why and what type of feeling i encounter can i release these feeling if not why
4. can i am taking the biggest step in this present moment towards my meaningful and abundant life. it may be short in life but in the present moment this is the biggest step.
5. am i looking for good in present situation, people and circumstancs.
6. what i learn today (at night i write the answer)
7. am i taking every decision on the basis of what i want or desire. not on the basis of fear, or wanting to avoid the situation, or worry about the situation.
in every hour or 2 hour i am writing these answer and this take only 3-5 minutes only. in this way i am aware that what is going on in my life and also i am keeping the journal because i am now having a good amount of free time so i am utilising it in my own ways.
i do not understand this passage from you and that is
IT IS A GOOD GOAL TO WORK ON TRUSTING FOR 25 DAYS SINCE YOU FEEL YOU CAN COMMIT TO THAT AMOUNT OF TIME. BUT YOU MUST THINK OF TRUST AS THE REASONABLE WAY TO LIVE
will you explain a bit about it.
thanks for the last part of insight which i found very useful for me. and i try it myself and if i face the difficulties than i will let you know about it.
nice guy
Hi all,
I am aware that RobynWanda's initial message is being distorted by having a separate thread discussed on it. Welcome to ES, RobynWanda. I look forward to hearing all sorts of exciting ES adventures from you.
Keep communicating, that is definitely the right approach. ES is not a process to keep to oneself!
And now to the new thread!
Adieu,
French Claire
Apologies for lengthy delay in response to Niceguy's question.
In the spirit of the thread -
You said in an earlier post the following:
'if i fail than it could not hurt me because it is only for 25 days and than i can come back to my reasonable life and i can go to the old ways.'
I said that you must think of trust as a reasonable way of life because it appears to me in that statement that you really think of it as UNreasonable or maybe 'crazy.' (Which I think is generally considered undesirable!)
You consider yourself to be a 'reasonable' person and probably would like others to see you that way, too. But you made a 25 day commitment to give up your 'reasonable' skepticism. There are many people who feel that it is very reasonable to live by trust and faith. When you let go of the idea that faith is unreasonable, and accept it simply as another way of being reasonable, then I think that you will find it is easier to stay with your commitment to try it.
I hope that clarifies my thought and helps to move you on your pathway along Effortless Success.
Margaret Ida
i also apologies for the delay in reply because i am busy in looking for work which bring abundance and meaning to me. i have not yet find the things but i am happy to announce that i am start looking for the new opportunities. the fear which is resting in my mind is start disappearing. i am looking forward to life. when i am alone and find that i am reacting negatively than i use the sedona method and release it. this helps me a lot. i am also using the peak performance paraliminal in the morning and i am starting taking the steps towards the earning good money by doing meaningful work and earn in abundance.
i have not yet found the meaningful work but i found a business which give me flexibility and freedom and good money also. but this is not a meaningful work so i think i have to go forward. now the fear of losing the job is no more. this new business venture give me the sufficient money through which i can pay my bills easily. and this happen in just one day. i saw the opportunity and understand it and start using it. all happen in one day. cannot believe.
and i wanted to thanks all the person who give me support and also give me insight specially French Claire and Margaret Ida. you are diamond in the gem.
thanks to all of you again. and i am agree with you completely about your last reply Margaret and i am going to incorporate this insight in my daily life.
sanjay sharma, india