Is there such a person as a soulmate who is the special ordained (by God) mate for another person? Is this concept of soulmate(a predetermined mate) realistic?
There are some schools of thought which say that freedom of choice is the way to go when it comes to a mate. Other people would say put alot of effort into developing yourself first then naturally the best person for you will be attracted to you. Some say date alot and focus on attraction. Some say follow your ordinary routine and your soulmate's path will cross yours. Also one could think, whatever I do, my soulmate and I, will enter each others lives. Some beliefs are seemingly a bit magical, but I don't know if they're unrealistic. Some say the closer you are to God, and the closer your soulmate is to God the closer you'll be to each other.
How do you know when you've found the right person? Should you just think I'm not looking for love and wait magically for the right one to arrive? Why do people say that way works? I suppose if we took all the magicalness out of it all together then it would be dry? Does the mind create magicalness in relationships and that it has nothing to do with a higher being "blessing" us? Can we purposefully attract our soulmate? Is it something we can by choice effect the result of? Isn't it so that when he/she will arrive they will arrive and not before? How does higher purpose work in with tools like the relationships paraliminal? How much control should we give ourselves in this area?
Please can somebody can give me a little bit of good perspective on this, so I can see how this soulmate stuff works realistically.
Thanks.
g.
[This message has been edited by Grant (edited December 22, 2001).]