Hi Susan
From what I gather about anal retentive personality, is that there is a reason why the problem started. There are many symptoms of the problem and I don't know which ones you have, but you could spend your life trying to address your symptoms with paraliminal tapes only to find that others appear.
Somewhere back down your timeline, where times were rough, you decided that somethings were worse than they actually are. You have to talk to the child within you, that experienced things more harshly than they could have been for you. You have to allow yourself to feel safe and experience more acceptance of yourself from yourself. Reparent yourself with gentleness and love.
Four paraliminal sessions which can help you speak to your child within, with love are New History Generator Side A, Belief Side A & B, and Anxiety-Free Side B.
When answering the questions at the beginning of each session, speak to the part of you that knows best, your inner child, get the answers from her. If it seems too painful to go through the work of paraliminal listening, then simply try releasing with the Sedona, 3 questions, while gently chatting to your inner child. With each painful feeling, do a release.
All the best,
Grant