Well, I just had yet another annoying encounter on the telephone, because I am incompetent to speak and understand. I have to function in foreign languages. I just called a man who has a moving company where I live. I have to put many of my belongings in storage for some months. This man had come to my home a month or so ago to look at how much I had and estimate for me how much it will cost me per month to store my stuff. Additionally, he said he knew someone who might buy my piano.
Now I am ready to move, at the end of May. I had to contact this man again to ask him if I could come and measure the storage space, so that I could make sure all my stuff would fit in it. Moreover, I need to get a straight answer from him, if he knows someone who will buy my piano or not. I sent him an email in English asking about both of these things, as I knew he would not remember who I was if I called on the phone (I hate talking on the phone and I am especially flustered if I have to speak in a foreign language.) He answered my email and told me to call him.
Well, I put that phone call off for a week and just now I called him. The results were worse than what I expected. First, he didn't remember me. I started out speaking English and he was like "huh??" Then I switched to Finnish and tried to remind him who I was. I said my name and, like a fish flopping around out of water, I tried to say he had come to my home to look at my things. I didn't manage to express that. Then I mentioned the piano. He was speaking Finnish so fast, I couldn't understand. Often, after an oral interaction, I reflect on what happened and only THEN I realize what he was saying - and I think the reason I come to understand is partially understanding an essential word or two that he said, but the rest is intuition and not understanding words.
In the end, I think the man told me he will call me and come and look at my stuff - AGAIN! After I hung up and realized that and I was like "NOOOOOOO!!! YOU HAVE ALREADY COME HERE AND LOOKED AT MY STUFF." I was really frustrated and annoyed. I sent him a text message in Finnish instead, saying what I had really wanted to ask on the phone.
This sort of experience happens to me virtually EVERY time I have to speak with someone, at least in a foreign language, and the results depend on how bad I am in the language in question. And the results are infinitely worse if the conversation takes place on the phone!
I have the Ultimate You Library and Talking to Win. I need help with this thing, but I don't know which CD to use! I have been trying the Personal Genius one for improving my general skill in speaking. I know I know the words, the vocabulary (so I can WRITE what I want, but I can't say it when I need to), but my mind seems to go blank when I have something to express in the moment. This experience would suggest that the Personal Genius one is not working for me in the way I am using it.
Does anyone know how I can change this debilitating problem?