Hello,
Any advice about how to use LSC programs to deal with somebody that has frequent stages of being very negative in general and very critical to you in ways that sting.
and when simply keeping away from them, as you would a toxic person, is not an option.
Yes! it is my elderly mum so I completely lack objectivity here! I love her dearly but frequently find myself walking away thinking how could she be so nasty and mean to say that! and it seems to be getting worse! here eyes seem to glaze over sometime like she is totally unconscious of the effect her words are having
i am finding it gets to me quite a lot for there is some truth in her criticisms, so it is not like I can ignore her entirely and say to myself there goes X...... the negativity machine, and put it to one side in my mind as I use to do with people I had no emotional attachment with at work.
What a paradox I often walk away to control my anger and not express it in front of her and the things I say in my mind about her in these moments of anger upset me deeply for it is weird while I am saying them I know when I havnt seen her for sometime I will miss her so much, despite the sharp tongue there are some lucid moments when I feel her love and it is so genuine
What a challenge this is! to accept somebody as they are (for I still catch myself out trying to change her), to support her, yet to handle the criticims and negativity in a way that doesnt drag you down?
Any thoughts on this would be much appreciated!