Hi Alex, I really ... really ... really hope you can help me out here.
I have been struggling lately with my behaviour. I have tried to change it and it works for a while and then I revert to my old self.
I was then listening to Tony Robbins tapes and in one of his sessions; he mentions that we revert back to our old self because we need to change our "identity" and not just our behaviour. He further explains we have to change our beliefs about ourselves to form a new identity.
So I have been struggling with how to change my beliefs to the extent of adopting a new identiy? LS Beliefs comes to mind however I am not sure if this CD will help me change my identity.
Will it? Will it help me change my beliefs about myself (as in, I don't want to simply have a "can do" belief as the booklet states). Interesting, the booklet does mention about "direct self fulfilling prophecies by changing self limiting beliefs" so I think this one will do the trick but I really need A LOT OF HELP in using this tape. I don't want to simply listen by having an intention before hand.
For example - let me just tell you (why not eh?!). I want to change my identity. Right now, people think of me as "fun", "chatty", "nice to have for a friend", "dispensable", "expendable", "intelligent when they want me to be" "stupid when they want me to be" etc .
I believe this is so because in some part, that is my impression of myself. I wanted to change it so that people simply say "she is nice" - I don't care if they don't have anything good to say about me as long as they don't have anything bad to say about me either.
I am getting "desperate" now because I missed out on a potential relationship because people painted a picture of me that I know is not me - at least, not when I am alone at home or surrounded by my family. But when I am with colleagues or friends, I just turn into a people pleaser. I try too hard to get accepted and to some extent even say things just for the shock value. I hate myself after that, I come home and listen to all the paraliminals and feel better the next day. Then I am back exactly where I started.
So ... how do I change my beliefs so that I can change my identity? I need clear steps as the booklet is not giving me what I am looking for. Thank you for reading this long post and for answering of course!