ph0t0reader, I would suggest joining Toastmasters. I believe they are world wide. The idea may be scarey, but you seem familiar with doing the scarey. Consider this, most of the people at Toastmaster join for the same reason you will. Namely, a fear of public speaking. It a freindly support group for public speaking. A place where you can practice without fear.
As for paraliminal I recommend the Personal Magnetism. You can incorporate any personal trait you want to acquire. I personnally like it better than Belief and truckloads better than Sale Leap, although I appreciate that each tape will make a different quality of connection with different people. Consider the Personal Magnetism tape.
My other suggestion is pick one of the tapes an listen to it each day, with the same objective, before a week before adding a new trait. Then schedule a once a week booster to that trait. It's very important to keep your goals present in your thoughts, until you achieve some lasting success.
Dyslexia and autism I can't help you with. However, if you've gotten this far you've must have developed a pretty good set of coping mechanisms.
Good luck in reaching your goals,
Iam2