Lets say you're with Indiana Jones, going on an adventure with him. You're traveling down a narrow stone passage, cluttered and blocked with vegetation that has grown over countless years.
In front of you, you hear Indy yell the word "DUCK!" But before anyone can react, a blade swings out from one of the walls, cutting the person in front of you nearly in half, but only taking off the top of your hat.
Idie looks down at your mutual companion, shakes his head, then reaches down and hands you the top part of your hat and winks.
"Lucky for you, fella," he says, "that what wasn't given to you in dexterity was made up in shortness."
You laugh, and at least for the moment, are very grateful for your height.
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Of course that is a hokey, fictional scenario. But the point is, being grateful or ungrateful often depends on the situation.
Few of us look like Brad Pitt, but do you really think Brad Pitt sometimes doesn't wish he looked differently ... for whatever reason? I bet he does.
Very attractive people are rarely 100% sure that people like them for them. People usually want them only for their looks. Unfortunately, many people who were too attracive their whole lives have distorted personalities, make horrible friends, and are torture to live with.
A very attractive person is used to getting his or her way. They probably feel they are better than everyone else. They feel entitled to things that are, really, unrealistic to expect.
I went out with an absolutely STUNNING woman for a number of months, and you know what? At the time >I< wasn't really sure what I was feeling and why. Her beauty was so overwhelming that I didn't know if I was in love or what was happening to me.
Do you think people like having people tell them "I don't know if I like you or your beauty?" Or knowing that people only want to be around you for how you look?
I agree that looking at people who have it worse than you is a kind of screwed up way to define your own worth. So don't do it.
Being self-absorbed and self-pitying, however, is no way to determine your self-worth either. Who wants to be around a whiny, bitter person who bemoans, "What about me? WHAT ABOUT ME?!"
So you've only got so much good looks, so much height, so much charm, etc. So what? Maybe you should change your focus from trying to make yourself look better to yourself and start finding out what you can do with what you got?
Let's just assume you are the way you are, however that is. How much does life have to offer someone like you? Certainly you are due your fair share of what life has to offer. Why not take it, enjoy it, and stop worrying about it?
Frankly, in certain ways I am grateful I don't look like Brad Pitt. Especially if he someday gets charged with murder. Wouldn't want to be mistaken for him. It would be nice, yeah, to be able to turn on and off stunningly good looks at will, but cest la vie.
If you need more, get more. But chances are, since you are complaining in this manner, that you are actually quite comfortable with what you have. Otherwise you would acquire more. When it is a matter of absolute need, people find a way and they don't bother with feelings of self-pity.
So, it would be nice, yes. But turn your energy elsewhere ... toward something that will really benefit you somehow.