anchoring is when you link a mental or emotional state with a physical 'pointer' such as a sound, or a physical touch.
the way to get this anchoring is to first get into the desired state, no matter how long it may take you right now.
so taking the relaxation as our example,
you first get into the relaxed state, then you may choose to repeat to yourself the words 'i am completely relaxed' and move your body in a certain way or touch your fingers together in a certain way.
the cues or 'pointers' can be anything as long as it isn't something you do everyday, like shaking hand with someone.
the most important thing is to get the really desired state when you anchor it.
you must experience it before you can anchor it.
for example, if you are trying to anchor relaxation, you must feel very relaxed before you can anchor it, you cannot simply think you are relaxed.
it won't work.
we have many of these, though you may not be aware of them.
when you see the faces of the children in the developing countries on tv, the feeling that you get before you even hear the words are anchored into your mind.
the same thing with songs.
when you are driving and you hear a particular song, it might make you happy or sad, etc...
this is anchoring at its best.
hope this helps somewhat.
