I would suggest welcoming the situation as it is. When you're not resisting something, you release your focus on it and can see the infinite possibilities that surround it. From this open space, you are more readily able to discern what would be most effective and appropriate.
I understand your quandary, because I used to connect acceptance with condoning, but I find that is generally not the case at all. Accepting things as they are stops the constant second guessing and allows you to release the barbs that are keeping you stuck. This, in turn, creates clarity about what is actually going on and what would be the most effective and purposeful response. The shift from reactive to purposefully, clearly and positively proactive is huge!
All the best to you!