I believe Alex and Babayada have given appropriate answers. Using self-hypnosis, I focused on the "essence" of what I would feel like with the girl of my dreams. I would spend hours and hours in an alpha level. After this I would just "let go", I was happy, and dated freely. Not three months later, I met my "soulmate", and we have been married for 15 years now. She makes me feel as I had visualized. The key points were that I was happy, I knew that my goal would be achieved, and I let the universe take care of the request.
