Whether reliance is a good or bad thing depends of the kind and extent of reliance of one person on another.
If I understand you, you're saying that relationships contain elements of interdependence. I agree.
That's healthy.
Contrast this with a girl I know who had a sugar daddy. She was a complete emotional wreck, and her sugar daddy secretly resented her. Whether she was happy or miserable depended on whether or not she got a call from him during the day. If he called, she was full of glee, if not she was morose and unconsolable.
Sounded to me that Dinara was looking for a sugar daddy type scenario. Of course, I could be mistaken.
Some of what people call relationships are actually forms of mutual slavery. Personally, I want a mate who is self-sufficient, who can exist happily on her own as well as within a relationship.
"I can't live without you" is a nice, romantic sentiment, but it sucks as an opening line.
[This message has been edited by babayada (edited October 29, 2004).]
