Tony, in his own way, can be very good with rapport.
He demonstrated matching my behavior patterns and widened the scope, lets say, of what can be mirrored for rapport purposes. That is, I had spoken to him and started to walk away, but then stopped and came back and told him something else. During his reply, he mirrored this behavior ... acting as if he were going on one course, reconsidering, and then going on another. It seemed quite natural at the time and only later did I realize that he had mirrored me.
So, yes, Tony is due credit where credit is due.
Criticizing Tony for not practicing what he preaches IS appropriate, because he preaches practicing what you preach.
Of course, some people agree with the sentiment, as J. R. Bobb Dobbs put it, "I don't practice what I preach because I am not the kind of person that I am preaching to!" Tony, however, makes it clear that what he says comes from personal power ... which is supposedly coming from integrity and congruence.
I am surprised that more people aren't critical of Tony in this regard.
[This message has been edited by babayada (edited April 04, 2005).]
