Are you focussing on having abundance now or sometime in the future?
If your preoccupation is your perceived lack in the now, that is what will be manifested.
See yourself as having the partner of your choice now and the bank balance that you have decided on.
The problem with 'wanting' is that you will always be unfulfilled, because the unconsious part of the brain interprets this as an instruction to 'want' which is easily achievable rather than to 'have'.
Perhaps the key to your situation is working on the depression, and negative feelings. Visualisation and affirmations work more effectively with powerful emotions. If you tell yourself things about yourself in an angry or depressed state, negative forces will take hold much more easily. Try working with positive paraliminals for a while on self confidence and self esteem.
Hope this helps
