Hi again Really,
I just had an insight. I recently read a book on Fear - the concept being that fear is essential, not to be shied away from, but a very important signal that all is not well. Listening to fear has saved people's lives because they got out of tricky situations on time.
How does this relate to your experience? Well, in the book the author/researcher brings people through terrifying ordeals (such as rape or attempted murder) and he helps his 'client' remember 'fear signals' that all is not well.
In your posting you seem to indicate that your situation with this person did not come out of the blue. There was a history of....? deteriorating communication.... previous conflict.... what exactly? I think you should see the 'slamming of the doors' by this person as the final act. Your solution to understanding what went wrong lies in earlier episodes.
Good luck. Those who genuinely seek will find. Let us know when you find it.
French Claire
