One of the most important criteria in goal setting, is it must apply to yourself.
Being other oriented in this context can lead to dissaster in so many ways. As soon as you try to "make" another person do or be anything other than they are, there is potential for your dissapointment, and the others anger at being manipulated, and possible loss of the beautiful thing you already have.
While I agree with Alex, I also think that spending time appreciating what you do have with her, without excpectation of more, just gratitude for what is, will lead to greater happiness for both of you.
How wonderful to feel love for the other people in your life!
vita-man
