Thank you, Grant, for your comments.
What works for both is the great feelings we have when we are together and probably even away from each other. We have a high degree of compatibility in the most important aspects of life. She is ready for anything, but not a committed relationship with any man. I would not be surprised if one day she would tell I am the man she has loved the most in her life. I am the same height as the partner of her longest relationship and my face resembles that of her first boyfriend, who, amazingly, died in a car accident the day of my 21st birthday! So the connection between us is very deep in many ways. It's a pity she decided not to be a spiritual person at all.
It is very bizarre that last year for the Christmas holidays, after we had not socialised for 3 months, she asked me if I wanted to spend a couple of days with her and her pre-teen nephew from interstate, whom I had met the year before. I accepted since I thought that this was the move towards a relationship. She never invites friends when her nephew is around. As soon as the kid found out I was going to be around for a couple of days, he wanted me there all the time. I know that, if she didn't want me with them, she would have told me so. We spent a wonderful week together. I did play by her rules and never did anything to make her uncomfortable. The friendship between me and kid grew alot, as he saw me like his uncle.
Once we dropped the kid off the airport, we got back to her house and things were like in the past. I did see her again a couple of times. I did get physical in hugging her and giving her a few kisses trying to trigger a positive reaction from her. I said that, I saw no reasons why we could not spend the rest of our lives seeing each other every morning and enjoying life together like during the week we had just had. Of course, this created a new rift between us. For weeks at work she was very cold towards me. A few weeks later I sent her a Valentine's present. She never said thank-you. After weeks after I sent her a birthday present, but again no thank-you. However, since then she has become really friendly at work with me. I did phone her one day to say thank-you for being nice to me. Again she pushed the issue of making sure there is no misunderstanding between us. This means being friendly, but nothing past that. I have learnt that discussing our possible relationship with her gets me nowhere.
I am not willing to accept anymore what it comes. I have done it for almost two years. She is a person who drags potential relationships on for ever as close friendships. In one of her past relationships the man supposedly wrote her a letter everyday for two years. In the end she caved in, but the relationship failed after a few months.
Over an year ago I asked her what are the signs that she falls in love. She replied that it is a sudden and unpredictable event. All I know is that once I kissed her, her reaction was... wow.. this is getting dangerous! She never kisses me back though, as she said that the kiss to me will mean the start of a complete relationship. She added it is a game of all-or-nothing... I believe this is true.
Having spent endless time figuring her out, I know when she lies, when she is truthful, when her deep feelings for me are coming up, etc. There is no way that I can get to her heart in an organised and rational, progressive fashion so that she can let go and accept a relationship with me. So it's a matter of surprising her by getting her in a moment of weakness. However, I must work on myself to become "irresistible" to her, as this is the only way I can weaken her resistance. Holosync meditation, Paraliminals and Sedona method will get me there.
So she does trust me in many ways, but not when it comes to me showing my deep feelings for her. She is the only close person in my life who knows me in my private life and at work. She glows every time she can tell me that somebody said nice words about me while I was not present.
Paraliminals help in changing the energy around a person. The Ultimate You collection gives you lots of tools on different ways to change parts of you.
I find it is most helpful to get suggestions on how to find more uses to the Paraliminals. I liked Grant's suggestion about using Prosperity as part of a way to win over the woman of my dreams.
