<<I love how you goat me into being the Playful, Confident MAN I can be. The past times I acted that way, I love the results.>>

Yeah...even when we hit on this accidentally, it just doesn't click that this is the magic bullet because in our affection we WANT to do nice things for women, to buy them things, to be the kind of guy they like. It takes a while for it to sink in, I guess.

There is a guy who has codified this and marketed it as "C/F"--for Cocky and Funny, and articulates clearly what most of us discover through trial and error, if we discover it at all. I think his name is David DeAngelo...Google the name and you should find his website. I think he has a free newsletter.

In fact, I should Google it myself and subscribe to the newsletter! You're never too old to learn new tricks.