I am having difficulty discerning if something is a situation I have to accept or if it is one I can change. Sometimes choosing to change the situation feels empowering and possible but often, it feels like I am controlling, and I am afraid I am just forcing and resisting the flow. However, I am also having difficulty discerning between genuine flow and inertia -- I am afraid that going with the flow is just complacency in disguise. I am feeling confused in both directions. Do you have any advice on what can help with this discernment and trusting myself and what I am perceiving?