Loverofcats: One thing I would recommend to try is to change your hat from being a victum to being a student, try asking the Universe "What are you trying to teach me?" See life as a big lesson and you are here to learn, you are in training, this also helps to lighten your load. If you knew everything you wouldn't be a student.
Ask the Unverse for Guidance (Universe is your interpretation of a Supreme Being) Quiet your mind and see what comes in. The answer is always right in front of you.
