Dear Sheanmima, thank you for such a lovely reply. I have created for myself a most difficult and lonely life, without ever realising it. Because of abuse and trauma early on I was always waiting for life to happen, for it to be my turn, then at 56 I have woken up to the fact it wouldn't andwithout my changing too. I have no idea how I can "find/build the family I have always longed for" I have no siblings, parents or children and have always felt very alone, unloved and unlovable. I think what you are saying is if I am prepared to believe I am worth knowing and loveable then loving people will come in to my life. Are you also saying it is never too late?